i wanna be your whore

Anonymous asked: hey what do you think about infidelity?

this is funny cos you ask like its such a casual thing, “hey, what time is dinner?” but its actually a question about infidelity which is massive.

see my previous answer to the question about pie and cake? it should be a pretty good indicator that i tend to see lots of grey areas, i dont really come down on the side of black/white and right/wrong.

i can say “infidelity in general is bad”.  great broad generalising statement.  but i can also say who the fuck am i to judge someone if they are being unfaithful to a partner. if i dont know these people, then thats their thing. i cant/wont pass judgement unless i know more about the situation. maybe the other person cheats too? maybe they have an arrangement? maybe the person cheating is in an abusive relationship or has psychological trauma that they havent identified that has led them to lead a self destructive pattern of behaviour ruining things that could/would be really good for them (cough) or maybe the cheater is just a total jerk when it comes to cheating but is a lovely person in every other aspect of their life?  all that would do is make me not date them, and not encourage my pals to date them.  it doesnt make them a monster.  people do “bad” things all the time.

that said yeah generally bad, but we all make mistakes. in the bigger picture, grain of salt, other generalisations etc.

thanks for your casual question! i hope i answered it adequately.

Anonymous asked: Hey firstly I love your tumblr. Secondly where did you get the Henry Miller and Charles Bukowski with girls photos from?

from a folder on my computer called “MISOGYNISTS AND BABES”  ;)

Thanks!

Anonymous asked: What is the worst insult you have ever heard?

off the top of my head, its a lyric actually

You got a fuckin’ stinkbox, a nasty stinkbox

from Necro - STD (ultra violent “death rap” so warning bigtime) youtube link here

hes actually singing to a girl whose character is a metaphor for an std.  but after this song came out i heard a bunch of dudes using the term “stinkbox” and i came down on them hard.

i dont care if you say cunt, vagina, pussy whatever. but stinkbox is just nasty and disrespectful.  

Anonymous asked: Hello, I hope it's okay for me to ask for a little advice. I've never had anal sex before, and had thought it wasn't something I'd ever be up for. With my current boyfriend, for the first time I think I'd like to try it. When I'm really turned on I've wanted to let him but have hesitated as I'm a little scared. I'm aware that I'll need some lubrication, but is there anything else I should do? This sounds so stupid but I'm scared I'm going to poo or something!

the old anal question. comes up every couple of months. of course its okay for you to ask advice! just be warned im not a professional and everything that follows is my opinion.

i aint no anal specialist, but ive been there, tried that. 

basically yes you are right, you will need lubrication. not just some lubrication, but a buttload of lubrication. (totally do not excuse the pun. terrible). 

personally i would suggest some sort of masturbation solo style before you try to tag team the anal, making sure youre really turned on whilst masturbating and having a little explore with fingers.  then maybe work your way up to both of you exploring with fingers, or maybe with a butt plug - before eventually going for the penis.

the only times i have had success with the penis in ass sex is if ive been mega mega aroused, like totally wanting it, and my partner has prepared me with his finger/s and lube first.  even then, it can kinda be a failure.  slow slow slow is my only other real piece of advice, do not try to just “push through” if it is hurting too much, this can lead to little tears and infections, increased risks of stds and a fuckload of discomfort in general.  boyfriend gotta be listening to you when you say hold up.

youll also know if you have poop in the lower passages of your bum, either through “just knowing” or having a feel around.  if you do, and you want to have some anal play, go to the bathroom first or just skip it for that occasion.  it is very very unlikely you will poo on his dick.  it is very likely that he may get some poop on his dick, which is where using a condom is handy (besides decreasing the risk of STDs so wrap that baby up first).  if you do have successful anal sex you will probably produce a bunch of gassy noises afterwards, because lets be honest, your rectum got filled with air and lube and that is just normal.  

important - is never let anything that has been in your ass into your vag, penis, fingers etc in the same session. 

here is an article from the internets by some dude named cory silverberg. he seems to know what hes talking about.  may also help.

lastly, only do it if you really want to, make it fun and giggly and explore-y. nothing worse than stressing and freaking out when trying to have fun sexual action.  it may take a few goes, (infact it will probably take a few goes) so just be prepared, and prepare your partner that the first few times are just for play, if he wants it as bad as you do, it will be worth it in the end.

goodluck!

Anonymous asked: hi this is sha gaze here. there is a photo of me on your blog. i got my titties out and the bear mask on. i love that photo and im totally cool that youve used it but i would like it taken down if thats not too much hassle. not for any other reasons than trying to wipe my internet presence clean. thanks doll. xox

heya, im happy to remove any pictures you like, but unfortunately i have no idea which one is you.  there are a fair few of girls wearing masks with their titties out amongst my 11,326 posts.  maybe if you have the link, send it through the submit button and i can help? 

Anonymous asked: i remember you mentioning a swedish movie which id wanted to see but had completely forgotten about until today. i went through your archive and cant seem to find it ? -xxo

hi, um ive mentioned lots of swedish films over the last year. i can make a list of some i guess and take your pick?  do you remember if it was an old film or a new film?

i went through a phase where i watched/rewatched a bunch of Ingmar Bergman films? one that i talked about on here a fair bit was Scenes from a Marriage I also mentioned Fanny and Alexander a few times. Ive also mentioned Autumn Sonata.

newer films i have mentioned are Lukas Moodysson films. one was Together, which was kinda beautiful.  and the famous Lilya 4-ever 

I also dug some Josef Fares films, especially Zozo because it was close to my middle eastern heart.  

then there was trust me starring  Alexander Skarsgård & Gustaf Skarsgård.  it was ok, cute ensemble type film.

if none of this is of any help to you check out this link on wiki http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Category:Lists_of_Swedish_films_by_decade

jellysanscanicy asked: what is a good place online to buy interesting/vintage lingerie? I have the hardest time finding anything that isn't cheap and cheesy (although I'm sure it has its place)

heya i guess it depends what country you are in? have you tried etsy? theres lots of handmade interesting stuff on there…  i tend to buy “normal” knickers and adjust them to my tastes. I sew on ribbons on the sides, add pearls or little feathers.  One of my besties and I would have underwear craft afternoons and just edit it up.  

Anonymous asked: If you were going to make porn, what Manic Street Preachers song would you use for the soundtrack?

i dunno, im not sure if id use a MSP song as a soundtrack to porn in the first place? Im more likely to use it when having sex and crying. if i had to choose something brit poppy from that era id probably go with suede. but thats not what you askeddd

if i had to choose, maybe “she is suffering” from the holy bible with a gagging sequence during the chorus.

ha.  

Anonymous asked: Any advice on someone who is about to go for an abortion? I used to think it was okay, but right now I feel more shitty than I ever have in my life

Abortion advice.  You know, such a hard thing to give.  All advice is hard to give to be honest but this one, just… something something.  Ill talk about my own experiences a bit and hopefully you can draw something from that.

My first bit of advice is kinda clinical.  If they give you antibiotics to take, take them. Follow all the advice and rules they offer you. Make sure you take a couple days off work/school to rest up if you feel you need it. If youre offered counselling, take it. Make sure someone supportive is around to help if you can.  

It doesnt hurt, its not that scary on a physical level. 

Ive had two terminations before, and to be honest the first time was “easier” than the second time.  

A kid is a massive responsibility, and I guess my way of thinking is that when I finally had a kid, I wanted to be ready, I wanted to be excited and happy about it. I didnt want the dread and the panic that came with an unwanted pregnancy. I wanted to be able to provide that new person with everything in the world I possibly could. I wanted to be emotionally ready, even moreso than financially ready, and I wanted my partner to be ready too.

The first time I was just too young to have been the parent I want to be one day. I was 18.  For me, that was too young. I just had too much I wanted and needed to do before I started breeding.

The second time I was older, and I could have probably supported a kid if I wanted to, but my partner at the time was really young, and I didnt really want to be the one to “ruin” his life you know? By “ruining” his life, I was also kinda “ruining” the potential life of the potential kid. But, because I was older I felt more of that “guilt”, as you call it “feeling shitty”, because I could have done it if I really tried.

I am now, a few years later, pregnant.  To the guy that I was pregnant with last time.  And we are pretty happy with the choice we have made, and overall, I am happy with the decisions I made in the past even though at the time it was fucking horrible.  

It gets better.  It gets easier.  Talking to people about it is important.  Talking to pals, a doctor, a therapist or counsellor if youre feeling especially mixed up about it - vital.  I actually let the second time send me into a depressive spiral and in hindsight, I could have totally dealt with it better, I could have reached out more, had more support and it definitely would have been easier.  if I were in the same predicament again, that is the only thing I would change.  I would ask for more help and talk about it more.

Whilst it doesnt seem like it now, and you may hate me for this, you eventually get to the point where you might even be able to make jokes about it.  When I found out I was pregnant this time around my excellent friend penny and I joked about “how many abortions were too many abortions” when I was deciding what to do.  Ive come a long way.  And you will too.  Hang in there, send me a message if you need more chats or something.

lame as it sounds, im sending hearts.

Anonymous asked: You really believe if women just stop caring and women start supporting other women it will change? You're so naive.

Do I believe it will change things like waving a magic wand and abracadabra peanut butter jelly sandwiches everything is fixed?

No.  

I think its funny you call me naive for being positive for change. I think that is the attitude that will prevent us as a society moving forward.

Women supporting other women in their self identity is paramount to change.  Misogyny starts from within, it is deeply ingrained into so many peoples mindset from a very early age, male and female alike. It certainly was in my mindset growing up, with women I looked up to having to conform to societal ideals and imposing those ideals upon me.

How great would it be to have a world where one woman never says to another woman “you slut”? in a derogatory way? This acceptance of negative images of women by women is a huge part of the problem.  

I believe that a push to see women supporting other women will see an eventual reduction in overall misogyny.  And have an effect when those women come in contact with males, or have sons, or influence students in their classrooms, or explain to their partners how it is not acceptable to accept that kind of negative feminine imagery. 

Anonymous asked: Why are you always so down on people that are Nazi's? You have made two posts in two days about them.

firstly im not even going to address why im so down on people that are nazis. if you dont know, kindly fuck off.

secondly, the most recent post was in response to someone trying to make a point, but really just pointing out their own inadequacies in making cohesive argument.  which happened to be about a shitty white supremacist family.  and my second post was this

people that post nazi/hitler stuff and claim its because they “like history” when asked why.  no its not, its because you like shitty people that did shitty things.

its like posting a dog fucking a woman because you “like animals”

eat my cunt.

I think its perfectly fine for people to post whatever they want on their own tumblr, just like its perfectly fine for me to ridicule them publicly.  

At the end of the day most people that post “controversial” stuff are just seeking attention, and sure i am pandering to their ego by reacting, but i feel like i do it in a way that just points out how fucking stupid they look, whilst saying its their complete prerogative to continue to look fucking stupid.

what really annoys me about some people that i react to is that besides the hitler love shit, they actually seem kinda awesome, and their inability to see that what theyre doing sucks balls kinda pisses on all of that.

Anonymous asked: If you could invent something the world needs what would it be?

The answer is obviously a cat that can make toasted cheese sandwiches and walks around  telling anecdotes about Bill Murray in spanish.

nymphetgarden asked: i love you!

thank you adorable girl! i have love for you too! xox

Anonymous asked: You were my ideal girl till you got pregnant. I could never date a girl with a baby.

ha. allow me to weep on your anonymous shoulder.  you realise that with that statement, you were probably never, ever my ideal guy/girl?

“ill pretend to be this awesome open minded person to girls that i want to date, till i dont want to date them anymore, then i will anonymously let them know”.

i dont have a problem with people not wanting to date people with kids, i get it, its stressful, can be annoying, its a tiresome responsibility that you didnt create.

 What I do have a problem with is the need to vocalise this feeling anonymously, after the fact, in a way that may make the person youre communicating with feel bad or inferior. You are essentially saying that they are no longer worthy of you because they are choosing to become a parent, and you are gaining some sort of personal or emotional satisfaction from informing them of this.  

You know what that makes you anon? a bad person, and guess what? Bad people dont make good parents, or step parents, so lets count the little blessings.  

have a lovely day!

edit to add - i discuss my eventual vagina stretching here http://thewhorebaby.tumblr.com/ so if you want to tell me how not ideal i am anymore, hurl abuse, e-masturbate over my potential bump etc, head over there and do it.

Anonymous asked: Sorta babby-related, but: it would be really interesting to see if your taste in porn changes over the course of your pregnancy. I have no idea how you'd measure that, though...

hey! ill keep track of it for you? I also have no real idea how to measure it, my porn tastes do change pretty often to begin with so we will see?

Ask me again as my alien growth progresses and I will let you know!

also ive finally gotten an ask page over on http://thewhorebaby.tumblr.com/ blog so normal thewhore readers dont have to hear about my little mistake, morning sickness and weird preggo sex cravings!