i wanna fuck someone from the internet, it's mutual, only problem is the question of my safety...help?
this is a really hard one to be honest. i dont want to give you any advice that will put you in danger.
I can give you a list of things that might help, but if someone is a psychokiller (Qu’est-ce que c’est - sorry) you really cant take enough precautions, it is still a risk at the end of the day.
Trust your gut. If this person seems like there is something off about them, do not proceed. This includes when you feel things are “too perfect”.
Meet first. Public place. Become pals with them. There is no harm in waiting and hanging out. if someone is pushing for something that seems uncomfortable do not do it.
Ask them for a copy of their drivers license or ID (I know it seems extreme or stupid) but having their details somewhere, given to a pal or roomie before hanging out means someone else has their info, plus if they are willing to share that kind of thing, good intention probably abounds.
have an arrangement with a pal that you will call them at regular intervals throughout the night. if they do not hear from you, and cannot contact you, to take action.
let your date know you have made safety arrangements.
I guess thats the only advice I can offer.
At the end of the day it is a risk. The only person that is responsible for taking that risk is you, please be careful, make sure to take (and use!) condoms.