Sometimes I check my boyfriends email account and Facebook page. I know he is not cheating and would not but I still check it. And sometimes I delete some of his female friends that he would not notice or I hide them from his feed. Is this bad?
as the great lafayette reynolds would say HOOKAH PLEASE YOU KNOW THIS ALL KINDSA WRONG.
and badly thought out… what happens when he realises some of his lady pals are missing?
you know this isnt right, otherwise you wouldnt be writing to me about it, youre feeling the need to get it off your chest. to quote another great wise character in pop culture, marcellus wallace, thats guilt fuckin with you.
this SCREAMS big issues. i think talking to someone about this could help, as always i suggest a counsellor, or a pal.
goodluck sorting this out (i think you should try to work through these issues) and please never let me date you.
i'm having an extreme crisis, idk if it's even that extreme, but this is a straight up honest question i would like help with because i literally don't even know anyone to talk to this about. i think from a young age i have always known i'm not totally straight, i dig girls in a big way (who on tumblr (it seems) doesn't though right?) i have experimented and done all sorts, and i loved it, the problem is (i'm not even sure how to ask advice so please excuse the ramblings) that i am currently in a long term relationship with a guy who completely idolises me. we were best friends before and we're pretty solid together, but recently, i don't know if it's the friendship that's keeping me with me, the guilt of knowing he'd do something drastic if i were to break things off or what. i can't really get turned on by him anymore and our once amazing sex life is utterly shit, it all comes down to this: i want a woman and not him. this is in no way some hipster, tumblr, bullshit phase. the only thing that satisfys me is girl on girl porn. how the hell do i even speak to him about this? i don't want to break his heart and i don't want to lose his friendship, i am stuck, alone and have no one else to share this with. if you could think of anything that may help, please do! i am sorry for this long-assed message.
completely confused xxx
you are completely confused, obvs! you start with “i’m having an extreme crisis, idk if it’s even that extreme” not knowing how extreme your problem is seems totally confusing.
so theres more than one issue at play here, the first is whether you wish to stay in a relationship with someone that you arent sure you feel romantically inclined towards, secondly you worry that if you leave he will harm himself, and thirdly you seem to experiencing some sort of sexuality crisis.
so i will address em one by one,
1) you gotta figure out your feelings. youre saying you arent sure if its just friendship, but its a pretty solid relationship, you seem to be voicing a lack of sexual satisfaction. ya gotta figure out what you really want and need. write it down, chat about it, message a stranger, think about it, pray, do some weird wiccan ritual involving burning stuff, whatever it takes, you need to delve into your heart of hearts, your vagina of vaginas, and figure out what YOU want. forget everyone else for a minute, forget bestie lover long term. just you.
once you have done this you can figure out where to go from there. you might choose to leave him, you might choose to stay with him and express a need for more sexual diversity, you might want to “have a break” or try an open relationship, you might want threesomes, or you might want to leave altogether and move upstate with some cute girl in a chequered shirt that rides a bike and has a dog named Virginia. I cant tell you which to choose, you gotta figure that one out.
2) so, lets say you decide to leave… it is okay for you to do so. you are not responsible for the actions of other people once you do what you feel you need to do. if you have serious concerns about him self harming you need to ensure you BOTH have people around you for support. parents, friends, a professional, psychologist, your local doctor.
if he threatens you with self harm in order to get you to stay, then that is actually abuse and totally not fair, if you decide to stay or leave is irrelevant, that kind of behaviour needs to change.
all you can do is offer him support, but you need to be honest with yourself, and him, for the long term happiness of both of you.
3) hang on ive ranted so much and its so early i actually need to scroll up and see what number 3 is OH RIGHT sexuality crisis.
so you think youre not straight. you get off to les porn. me too! i went through a phase where i watched almost exclusively les porn. then i went through a stage where i watched only kinky porn. i didnt feel the need to identify as a lesbian or as a kink fiend. i dig watching gay dudes fuck each other sometimes (but for some reason only missionary style??), but that does not make me a gay dude you see?
take your time in figuring yourself out. theres no pressure, just be who you wanna be, love and fuck who you wanna fuck.
i dont know if my long ramble has helped at all, but hang in there, im thinking of you stranger, and hit me up whenever you need a chat. ill eventually reply
somewhere on here ive ranted about words that i hate…. there are a few more
TURGID wtf dude that is the least sexy word ever.
"he shoved his turgid cock into the hole in the all at the roma st parklands toilet"
if your dick is turgid, do not bring it near me, erect is fine, hard is good, turgid is gross.
CUM seriously i dont know why i hate it. i sometimes even type it
"his cum flew all over her windscreen"
which is usually the context i use it in, actual physical ejaculate, i might write as cum, but i hate when someone writes CUM FOR ME BABY is it really that hard to write come? really? come is perfectly acceptable, and already a real word, why do we need to write cum?
do people find these words sexy? do people find these words sexier than the alternative? WHY PEOPLE WHY?
I think my penis is small and my gf says it isnt we recently measured it as I think it's small and she thinks it's big... it was 7 and a half inches long and 6 and a bit around. I'm not sure what is classed as normal, small etc what would you say this is?
pretty sure youre fucking with me. also pretty sure youre the same person that sent me the last question, which i actually put time and effort into answering. same style, same “x” at the end. im actually kinda smart sometimes you know? i notice things. but i also have better things to do than read and answer your fake questions.
do you seriously have nothing better to do with your time? or are you craving attention so badly you write fake questions anonymously on the internet to try to get some attention? i highly suggest seeing a mental health specialist if that is the case. im not being mean with that (surprisingly) but there is obviously something lacking if you feel the need to do this kind of thing you know?