how do you give a good blow job/ hand job? thanks!
and then when a guy is like fingering you, what are you supposed to do? Sorry, i probably sound really naive but yeah, thanks!
how do you give a good blow job/ hand job? thanks!
This is really hard to answer you know, because different guys like different stuff. Some guys like it hard, some soft, some like it slow some fast. Most like lots of spit, the rare one likes it kinda dry, I think theres a slightly different technique for guys that are cut vs guys that arent. There are a lot of variables you know?
I know that makes it sound kinda daunting, but I am going to let you in on a little secret I heard somewhere… For most men, there is no such thing as a bad pizza or a bad blowjob. Especially younger guys, they are so happy you are near their gentleman parts I promise you they wont complain.
I can give you a couple of tips that are pretty much universal though
1) look like you are enjoying it. show him you love touching him. dont look terrified or grossed out.
2) put one hand around the base of the penis, and slide it up and down, if youre giving head this gives you a bit of control, let your hand and your mouth work together, so if your mouth is coming off, slide your hand up, as your mouth goes down, slide your hand down.
3) ask! "do you like that baby?" or "tell me how you want it baby, tell me what you want me to do for you" is a very effective way to get them to open up, say this while still touching.
4) repeat #1. look like youre enjoying it. or even better, actually enjoy it! look at the awesome effect you are having on the other person.
5) Go easy unless otherwise instructed. Dont be too rough, no teeth unless he asks. Those things are REALLY sensitive. No rough play unless youve talked about that kinda thing.
and then when a guy is like fingering you, what are you supposed to do?
I think youre supposed to do whatever you want! i suggest laying back and enjoying it, or grabbing on to him, or telling him if you want it harder or softer or whatever you want. if you want you can touch your clit, your breasts, basically its your turn to enjoy so do whatever feels good for you ya know? He is probably just as freaked out as you are even though he is acting all joe-cool so dont stress.
Sorry, i probably sound really naive but yeah, thanks!
No need to apologise! Everyone has to start somewhere. But my real advice to you is take it slow, dont put someones dick in your mouth before you are ready and you want to, same goes for letting someone put anything in you. you can always do it later, you cant take back a blow job (trust me ive tried).
Finally, make it playful. The whole sexual experience is meant to be fun, loving, happy. Specially when you are learning.
I actually have a question if you do not mind. Do you ever turn the tables after being seduced or has a guy ever turned them on you? Let's say a guy comes on really strong, takes command and gets you in the sack. Have you ever had a guy then go submissive on you or have you ever gone dominant on them? For example, have you ever pegged a masculine guy with s strap-on, turning him into your little bitch? Do you like bi-guys? Do you like watching 2 guys fuck?
Thanks. I love your blog.
Of course I do not mind, I love questions and the more detailed or “tmi” based the better!.
Do you ever turn the tables after being seduced or has a guy ever turned them on you?
Sure, to both questions. I often love when sex is full of wrestling and biting, both parties passionate and wanting to rip each others clothes off, I generally tend to fall on the "man then overpowers me and has his way, punishing me for fighting him so hard", but sometimes, I win. And yes, that is incredibly fun.
Let’s say a guy comes on really strong, takes command and gets you in the sack. Have you ever had a guy then go submissive on you or have you ever gone dominant on them?
Yes, there was a time when I had a guy go submissive, and I admit at least initially it kind of freaked me out but I tried not to let on, half of sex is bravado with some people, I was quite young and inexperienced, and it was with a boy that I had wanted to fuck me for years, i was on top and about to slide him into me when he grabbed my hand and put it around his throat, his eyes begged me to go along, and he whispered “please just use me”. So I did. I fucked him and choked him and used him for my pleasure till we both landed in an exhausted heap.
For example, have you ever pegged a masculine guy with s strap-on, turning him into your little bitch?
Not with a strap on but certainly with a rather large dildo. My ex-husband (yes I married young, and for all the wrong reasons, namely the sex, we are happily divorced), was a masculine, sexy, strong man. He was comfortable in his sexuality though, which was a major turn on. I often used him, spat on him, fucked him with my toys, did things to him I am sure he dreamed his emotionally castrating mother would have done and and more. I made him cry.
It was intense and amazing to share that experience with someone. My only dilemma was that he, while able to play dominant, was never comfortable getting as aggressive or rough as I wanted him to.
Do you like bi-guys?
The same ex husband and I met at a party, the first words I ever heard him say were "I would love to be fucked by iggy pop while I fuck prince." I am not kidding. Whilst he wasnt bi, and would never have actually have slept with a man (unless they were prince or iggy pop, and I know this because the opportunity did arise on several occasions), I found it incredibly sexy to hear someone so comfortable to make a statement like that.
I dont not like bi-guys? I like most genders and sexualities, and just like I dont want someone to go “oh she sleeps with women AND men” I would never judge someone on the same.
Do you like watching 2 guys fuck?
yes sometimes its sexy as hell and I do get kinda jealous on some level I dont have the tools to make that happen. I tend to not like the doggy style position in porn though, I really love to see it missionary, one guy fucking while the other guy lays back and jerks off, inevitably coming on his own stomach. so fucking hot.
I hope this answers your questions adequately, I will point out though that I am not really your average run of the mill girl, I dont know if other women feel this way? I can only speak for myself.
“theres those nights, you come home drunk and desperate to rip your own clothes off, you try to remove your underwear and sit down in the bathroom you, instead manage to become tangled in the tiny lacy things and you fall. so there you are, on your hands and knees in the bathroom wishing there was someone there to make you lay down on the floor”—- the whore